Why I deleted Tinder?


Tinder is probably one of the most hyped up dating apps in the world right now, so what made me want to delete it? 


Okay so I joined tinder, half for a laugh and half because I genuinely wanted to meet someone. Two months later I'm deleting it after hundreds of matches (no I'm not exaggerating), countless hi, hellos and 'how are you doings' later I've still not found anyone. But it was a laugh and an eye opening experience, eye opening for several reasons:

1. No matter how many hi, hellos or hey they pretty much all start with the same small talk convo. 
This is what I actually hated about tinder, I just got so bored of the basic hey or hi, it actually made me stop replying to vast majority of them. I know what your thinking 'how else are you meant to say hello?' and truth be told I'm not quite sure but I just wanted someone to surprise me & do something different. 

2. It's actually quite surprising who you match with.
At school I was the awkward, quiet one who if I'm honest very few people wanted to be friends with let alone date. It's safe to say that the first year of uni brought me out of my shell a LOT. Still it shocked me a little when I matched with guys from school- as I tweeted though 'too little too late'. Fair enough I'm all for second chances and it was nice to catch up & see what they're up to now but if you didn't give me the time of day back in school then why would I want to know now?

3. You'll think you've found the perfect guy then all of a sudden you're un-matched. 
*eye roll please
This happened a little too often for my liking, it's weird cause we'd be having a good conversation then the next thing I know I'd find out I'd been unmatched. I watched Jack Maynard's tinder video on YouTube a while back & he seemed to find the same problem- I'm kinda glad to know it's not just me...

4. Thank god that tinder messaging doesn't have read recipients.
Okay so I not gonna sugar coat this some people are WeiRD on tinder, normally I'd just unmatched as soon as I can, but I was so grateful they couldn't tell I've read their message. C r e e p y...

5. Looks aren't everything.
For me one of the most attractive qualities in a guy is if they can make you laugh, I mean like laughing till you cry laugh. So really tinder wasn't for me on the sole basis on this. Fair enough I know there's got to be a physical attraction but looks REALLY aren't everything. I value a guy who'd have me laughing within the first 5 minutes over a guy who's profile is basically just how many gym poses he can show off.

6. It's SERIOUSLY addictive.
If you've got a spare five minutes, bored at any point of the day, or just simply want a laugh then what do you do? Of course it's go on tinder! Turns out those 5 minutes could end up being an hour or more, like seriously time would fly!

7. Make your bio catchy. 
Mine was (do I really even want to share this?) 'Most probably laughing' because it's true! For me I hoped it said I'm a funny, laid-back kinda girl who just looking for someone to have a laugh with. I mean I got quite a few matches but I still couldn't help but think it was still a lame bio.

8. In my experience guys who have there snapchat in their bio's are fuckboys.
Maybe I'm too quick to judge this but I added a few guys on snapchat from here and they literally only wanted a quick hook up or pictures which really shouldn't be shared (so we all know what they are). One guy I even had on there seemed like a stalker too, like if I shared a picture on my story of a particular place then he'd want to know why I was there, how long for, even who I was with- safe to say I blocked him quicker than he could ask another question.

9. Please don't share exactly where you live with people.
Obviously tinder works on matching people with how many kilometres you are away so locations can't really be kept completely private. But what I mean by this is be careful who you tell exactly where you live- you never know 100% who you're talking to online. Please remember your safe wellbeing should be a priority.

10. Would download it again?
Potentially, maybe I would in the future but right now no I wouldn't. Tinder just wasn't what I'd expected if I'm completely honest- I know life isn't a fairytale but I still kinda hoped I'd find the perfect guy within my first couple of matches and I didn't. Don't get me wrong I matched with some great guys who'd otherwise I probably wouldn't have ended up talking to but it wasn't 'the' guy if you get me. I've got friends who are in relationships now because of tinder which is kinda why I joined in the first place, but that just didn't happen for me.

Potentially the biggest lesson tinder taught me though was probably that I'm happy just being on my own right now. 
Don't get me wrong it's fun and I'm glad I tried it but really it felt like a weight had been lifted the second I'd deleted it. If that means I'm gonna end up being like 40 years old, single, with a house full of dogs so be it because guess what I know who I'd rather be...
Ask me that in a month you'll probably get the standard 'I'm gonna be forever alone' moan I usually have to my Mum but seriously I've probably been the happiest I've been in years in the last 6 months or so and I really don't think finding a guy could have made that any better for me.

Hope you've all enjoyed this post- let me know in the comments below.
What experiences have you had with tinder?

Take care & I'll see you all soon.
btw. if you haven't already guessed I'm loving blogging again and finally have schedule *hooray.

X

Image: Own.

Land of pink & blue dreams


Very few people have heard of the beautiful island which is La Palma. 
La Palma is a small Canary Island, predominantly known for it's volcanoes. The island's capital, Santa Cruz de la Palma, is a port town with narrow cobbled streets and houses with wooden balconies. The words 'simply stunning' doesn't quite do this island justice.


I was lucky enough for this to not be my first trip to the island, I previously visited around 9 years when I was only 11 years old. We always said we'd return, not quite sure why it took us 9 years to do so, still it was worth the wait. Not surprisingly we stayed at the same hotel as we did the last time, La Palma & Teneguia Princess, and it was just as good as we remembered. 


As you're coming from the airport to the hotel, it's located right at the bottom of the mountain to which you have about 9 zigzags to go down/ come up. Personally whenever I go on holiday, I like to feel as if I'm in the middle of nowhere, because that way I feel far from any stresses and worries of everyday life. So it didn't bother me that it took around 20-30 minutes to get to your local shop outside of the hotel. Really though the village at the top of hill, was typically Spanish, aside from a bus stop and local supermarkets there really is nothing to see apart from the views out to sea. 

The hotel itself was massive with a whole 11 pools much to my glee, honestly I am at my happiest when swimming and when you have 11 pools to choose from, life really isn't bad- not bad at all! 
We went as part of an all inclusive package- yep the dreaded band colour anxiety kicked in- but I had nothing to worry about seeing as it was silver so went with all of my outfits #winning. Food/ drink was free through-out *raises a glass to celebrate, each night in the main restaurant they had a different theme ranging from Spanish to Mexican to Oriental (all very yummy), even the alcohol was decent. Maybe it's just me but in the past I've found all inclusive alcohol to not be very nice but the cocktails were delicious and the whiskey cream was heavenly. 


I have to say I quite enjoyed life here at La Palma Princess. The biggest worry I had of the day was what to wear at night, because as you know being a fashion student the stress is real. Especially when you only have a 20kg suitcase. 


I know people usually do the whole eye roll thing at me whenever I say a certain place is really 'instagrammable' because I know you should be living life in the moment not via a screen. But I mean who doesn't like to take a pretty picture whilst they're away? And this island is full of pretty picture opportunities- just saying. 

Much to my Dad's dismay my idea of a holiday is not trekking over mountains, sweating enough to provide England with rain for at least a month. Although I do have to agree it is nice to see more than just the walls of the hotel when travelling abroad, so we did hire a car for a day. Personally for us, 1 day was enough to see everything we wanted to. We visited Los Llanos (if i'm honest it was a bit disappointing, not much there at all) and Santa Cruz (the capital of the island & a hidden gem), both places shuts up in the afternoons for there siestas so if you're wanting to do shopping whilst there, you're better off going in the morning. 

Santa Cruz was the place I seriously fell in love with, the buildings were just beautiful- even writing this now I still can't believe how pretty they were! Probably just my fashion student eye but I wish photoshoots with big budgets who go abroad to shoot campaigns would really consider coming here for the stunning backdrops. My instagram has never looked so colourful! 


The hotel setting is gorgeous! 


I already know this won't be my last trip to island of La Palma, who knows I may even someday be able to return as a full time blogger then I can snap pictures to my heart's content. A girl can only dream, seriously though La Palma has been a dream. The island, hotel, staff, animation team, everything about this place made it what it is- beautiful (sorry I've used that word way too often in this post). So next time you feel like doing a bit of travelling to dreamland why not look at La Palma because this is where a dream really can be turned into a reality. That's what this trip was to me after all...

Hope you enjoyed this post. If you have any more questions about my visit to La Palma feel free to leave them in the comments below. 

Take care & I'll be back Monday with more. 

X

Images are all my own. 

Just one 'Hot Mess'


"I might not be perfect but I'm one hot mess who's getting her shit together" 
Lucy Vine, Hot Mess. 

Growing up I was that child who always had a book in her hand, not joking my parents used to have to tell me to put down the book instead of to pick one up! For me reading funded my huge imagination- I was always making up stories convincing myself that whatever I did when I grew up, it was going to be something involving writing... I kinda guess little 6 year old me was right. If I had my blog when I was little it would've been filled with the most random stories you could have ever imagined. 


Lately though it's a different story, reading a 'book' lost it's sparkle for me. I was always too busy, too tired or simple just couldn't be bothered with reading about someone else's love story when mine is virtually no existent. Still I was determined whilst I was away to put down social media and let my imagination run wild again...

Normally in the run up to a holiday I would have had my books sorted a long time ago but this year I couldn't have been less organised- approximately 12 hours before my flight I was frantically downloading enough books onto my kindle to keep me occupied for 2 weeks (so about 20 would do it!). 'Hot Mess' was a book I completely downloaded by accident, but I'm so glad I did! I haven't read book like it in years, in fact I'm not sure I've ever read a book quite like it. Believe me the fact I'm even writing a review on it seriously shows how much I loved it!

I won't give too much of the book's story away incase any of you guys want to give it a read (I 100% recommend you do btw). Totally relatable to any Twenty something, 'Hot Mess' follows Ellie Knight through tales of friendship, romance & family, it'll leave you laughing and have you questioning you own relatable choices. In the overview of the book it said "Meet your spirit animal: Ellie Knight" at the time I was like 'yeah right, how relatable can she possibly be?'. Turns out quite a lot!


"Unexpected, relatable, charming and a laugh out loud"

It makes you realise that life isn't like a Disney movie and that's okay! So what if you don't have a so-called 'Prince Charming' you're doing just fine as you are! "I can still have my Disney ending, thank you everyone. But a fairytale ending doesn't have to mean a prince riding in on his white horse to save me". You know how people always talk about that one book that changed their life, well until now I had always thought 'what a load of rubbish! How on earth can a few words on a page really change the way you think?' Actually it can change you a lot! This is the first book I've read in while where I started reading it as one person and finished it another. 

Lucy Vine's inspiration for the book was that she was "fed up with seeing the happily ever afters in films" because I hate to break it to you all she's right, they're virtually non-existent, leaving you comparing your life to some made up fairytale that never happens in the real world. Because in reality, love isn't like the movies, in fact it's the polar opposite, in the films the girl always gets the guy, in reality chances are you won't. 


The book has received lots of praise online: 'Lucy Vine is always hilarious and with Hot Mess she's channelling her uniquely pithy tone into shining a light on the daily toils of being single and millennial. I'd swipe right for Hot Mess'. Have to say I couldn't agree more with Grazia. 

I hadn't heard of Lucy Vine before this book but she is a fab author and simply cannot wait to check out more of her books in the near future. I'm sure they'll be just as impossible to put down!
Turns out this 'reading accident' was exactly what I needed so thank you Lucy for writing a book every girl (single or not) needs to read! Somehow being single doesn't feel quite so bad after reading this... if you are still yet to give 'Hot Mess' a read then why have you not? Put down whatever you are doing and move this book straight to the top of list!

Read it already?
I'd love to hear your best bits in the comments below.

Hope you enjoyed this post and I'll see you guys on Friday for more from me (plenty of time to give Hot Mess a read).

X

Images from Google
Quotes referenced from 'Hot Mess' Lucy Vine. 

Got my 'A' Game on...


Welcome Back!

Finally after several breaks I'm back with my A game. Honestly if you've still stuck with me & my little blog then can I just take a moment to thank you from the very bottom of my heart! Because I probably wouldn't have been so loyal but it's time things changed....

I had an amazing few weeks in La Palma and I feel so rested & motivated for the things I want to get done. Seeing as the job front isn't looking promising till hopefully I start back at Uni, I'm gonna treat this like my job for the foreseeable. I know if this was an actual job then I would have been sacked ages ago! Don't get me wrong there's nothing I love more than this little space but I just haven't felt motivated at all- I actually feel like I hit rock bottom but I'm getting back on it now thankfully.


I want to do a separate post on the beautiful island of La Palma so don't worry if you want to hear more about my holiday... as cheesy as it sounds it gave me time to really think between dive bombing in the pool & soaking up the sun but more on that soon. 

This time around I'm not going to make promises that I know I won't keep which is why I'm going to commit to blogging every Monday & Friday with the exception of today's post. Expect some layout changes on my blog in the upcoming weeks and possibly even a a change of name 'LippieTalk' isn't really doing it for me anymore. I already have a new name in mind but I'm going to see what a few people close to me think first....

So I guess till tomorrow that's all I've got to say- Welcome to a new era on my blog let's hope it's a good one.

Take care & be sure to check back tomorrow.

X

Image is my own.

A lil realisation...


Summer is going by quick & fast, at uni I'm lucky enough to have 4 months off but it still seems like time is flying by. Much like my degree. When I finished back in June I was officially a third of my way through my degree which is a very scary prospect indeed! 

Before starting uni I'd lost count of the amount of people who told me to enjoy every second because it goes so fast- they were totally right! A year ago I was extremely anxious about going to uni because I was never the girl that people liked at school, I was the awkward, weird, quiet one so I thought uni would be the same story, but so far it has been the best time of my life. It really has felt like I've finally been accepted as lil old me. I'd no longer call myself an introvert because I finally have the confidence I've always dreamed of. 


Course wise I hands down chose the right degree for me, which when you think about it is hard to do when there are so many different courses out there. Uni wise I couldn't imagine myself anywhere else, honestly hand on heart when I say this I couldn't have been surrounded by better people. I saw this tweet a while back basically saying "even if my degree doesn't get me anywhere in life, the debt is worth it for the friends I've made". Personally that really hit home exactly how I felt- obviously I do hope my degree does get me somewhere though. 

First year was a blast and I really hope second year will be the same. Although I am going to knuckle down and study harder this year because I have goals that I really want to achieve this year. I've recently discovered what I really want out of life and I'm so determined to work hard to achieve it. 


I only ever intended to do a little post today because as you're reading this I'll be jetting off to Spain for a much needed vacation. I wanted to squeeze this post in though just before I go. Originally I had wanted to keep posts scheduled for whilst I was away but I don't quite know where the time went. Plan B though is to plan content whilst away so that when I get back I can seriously sort out my blogging game. 

I feel so ready for a break, I'm in desperate need of a chance to really relax and recharge my batteries. So it might be a few weeks till I blog again but I'll try to keep you guys up to date via my socials. 

Hope you guys have a great day & I'll speak more soon. 

X

Pictures taken from Google.

Twenteen



Turning T W E N T Y or the big 2 0...


For a while I kinda wanted to refuse admit to turning Twenty this year because I was nervous to leave my teens. I know most people don't agree with this but for me turning 18 didn't seem like a big event, fair enough my parents & friends made it a great day. Although at 18 you're classed as an adult I still didn't feel like one so I was happy to still be a teenager. Turning 20 was a different story, it kinda hit me how fast I was growing up and whilst I'm excited for the future, at times I'm still not sure I'm ready pay bills, work 9-5 (if you're lucky) & be in charge of your own life. It feels like the future's coming quick & fast, I kinda wish it would slow down. 


Still I had a great 20th birthday, I got lovely gifts from family & friends and enjoyed stuffing my face with yummy food all day. What more could a girl want? 
On my actually birthday I had a quiet day which was nice to relax/ chill and spend time with Willow. I went out into town on the day after with friends because as you've probably guessed already Uni has taught me the love of clubbing. 


Turning 20 though has made me realise a few things that I'd wished I'd know entering my teens:

1. Quality over quantity. 
Apply this to every aspect of your lives but especially friends and your wardrobe, growing up I felt the pressure to have loads of friends but on my birthday it dawned on me that it's the close few friends that really make an impact on your life. 

2. Makeup isn't a necessity. 
It's kinda weird you'd think I'd be wearing more makeup now I'm older but actually it's the opposite. Certainly in early teens I wore a lot of makeup because I didn't feel comfortable in my own skin so I felt it helped me to accept myself more. But over the last year I have really grown to accept myself as I am more than I ever thought I would. I just feel happy in myself, confidence really is the best makeup you can wear. 

3. Your will find your own style (eventually).
You'd think that doing a fashion based course I'd have been a very fashionable teenager (lol no), I actually cringe at the thought of some of the things I wore growing up because they certainly didn't suit or flatter me. Still I'm sat here today finally happy with my style. 

4. Be a kid whilst you can. 
There is that saying that adults say to a lot of children growing up "don't wish your life away", aged 13/14 I saw those years as irrelevant because they just seemed so pointless, I wanted to get to 16, 18 or 20 because then I could do whatever I wanted. In reality I wish looking back that I'd just enjoyed being a kid for longer- you grow up so quickly, enjoy it!

5. I can still class myself as Twenteen.
Okay so I maybe be 20 but I not ready to say goodbye to my teens just yet so I think I'll hang onto them for a lil longer. 

Turning 20 honestly doesn't really feel any different to being 19. I feel a lot more comfortable in myself entering my twenties then I ever did entering my teens so I'm glad of that. 
Blog wise my twenties are gonna be the years I make it happen. 


Hope you all enjoyed this post.
I'll see you all very soon, take care.

X

Pictures are all my own. 

It's okay to admit it...


Welcome back!

Well it's been quite a while hasn't it? 
The last time I blogged was back at the beginning of June so I'm sorry for probably being the most inconsistent blogger ever. Truth is I just hit a wall when it came to blogging- I lost all my motivation & suddenly the thought of sitting down to write just didn't feel right. 

Since the last time we spoke I've officially finished first year (which I'm not going to lie I still find a little crazy), I moved back home, been on a mini break to Liverpool, found out I've passed first year & turned twenty. 
So I've been just a little bit busy...
All of which I'd love to blog more about over the upcoming days to help me get back on track.
If I'm honest life has felt a bit surreal recently, finishing first year really hit me hard- it's quite scary to think I'm already a third of the way through my degree. Still I'm so happy with my grade for first year, and it makes me so determined to squeeze every opportunity out of second year.  

Probably the biggest change I've experienced lately is turning twenty, the big 2 0! 
Personally I was dreading this birthday, partly because it's starting to daunt on me just how quickly I'm growing up and whilst I'm excited for the future, it's still scary to think you're not a teen anymore. I moan all the time to my parents that I feel old, normally they just laugh at me & tell me I'm being silly but seriously I'm closer to 30 than 10 now so it's scary stuff! 


The pass few weeks have made me realise a few things that I want to change about my life, not because I'm not happy with where it's going now, just because I feel it's about time I gave myself a 'reality check' (probably the most cheesiest American thing I've ever said)...

1. Stop having your glass half empty!
Literally & metaphorically because I probably should drink more water and less alcohol. But seriously I always look on the negative sides of every positive and it annoys even me. Take the whole turning 20 thing, I hated the fact I'm not a teenager anymore or that I'm pretty much an official adult now but actually this is the time when I can really try to make my dreams a reality! I'll let you all into a little secret, growing up I was an optimistic child to say the least, I'd always said that I'll earn my first million by the time I'm 21. Seeing as that's now next year and my job perspectives aren't looking hopeful for Summer, chances are that's probably not going to happen. But you never know- the only person standing in my way is myself...

2. Be more organised!
Honestly it's amazing I got the grade I did for first year because my focus wasn't at all on my degree, which is stupid & silly considering the cost and how much doing well could change my life in the future. Organisation went out the window with my motivation for the majority of the year. I lost sight of why I'm doing the course I'd been dreaming of since I was little! I was never someone who signed up to uni for the party life because a year ago that wasn't me. A year later that's a different story, I love my friends to pieces and I really value the fun times! Second year though things need to change... if I want to do well I need to strike more of balance.

3. Make the blogging thing work!
For 2/3 years now I've been doing a lil bit of the blogging 'thang' not because I had to but because I wanted too. Over these few years I had so many people tell me it will never come to anything & honestly that just makes me more determined to prove them wrong. Growing up I was that child who one minute wanted to be a Vet and the next a Fashion Designer, I was constantly swapping & changing my mind because truth is nothing ever felt right. I'm not saying blogging will be my career but right now it's what feels right and I'd be a fool to ignore that. 


4. Don't force it!
Relationships are another thing I'm always moaning to my parents about (I promise I'm not just constantly moaning to them!) partly because I thought I needed someone else to make my life complete. When really that's not the case, okay so it would be nice. But I love my life just the way it is right now, it's perfect for me without a boyfriend. After all you can't miss what you never had... frankly if it's going happen than it will, if it doesn't then it wasn't right- I'm done with forcing things. 

Starting from now, I'm going to put into life what I want to get out of it!
Meaning over the next few weeks you'll see some changes on here- hopefully for the better. 
It's good to be back- I've hoped you've enjoyed this post, I promise it won't be as long till the next one. 

Take care & I'll see you all very soon.
X


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